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I’m a retired judge from New York.   I was staying in Portugal earlier this year and while there (among other places) I wrote about family court to help people feel and do better in their challenging relationships.   

I have witnessed so much pain caused by difficult relationships.  The suffering emanates from feelings of betrayal, anger, and confusion. I’d like to give people not just support but permission to do what promotes their wellbeing in all relationships.  I hope to be helpful to frustrated co-parents, people who are in challenging marriages, difficult sibling relationships, and more.

I intend to help people shift their focus and therefore be more at ease in the relationships that confuse them, render them apoplectic, or bring them to their darkest moments.  

Once a person has decided how they want to live and feel, they will learn the skills to set parameters for the relationship they want to have and will gain control over their experience.  I’m sharing stories that can be a road map to individual empowerment and personal resolution.